Judging is something we all do and like death and taxes it is unescapable in this world. From what someone says, their choice of clothing or desire to fit in, we are constantly judging others every minute of every day.
Ironically, fear of judgement is the main reason most people avoid doing the things they want to do or become the person they want to be. You would think finding out that judgement towards and from others is just a fundamental part of the human existence would free us from its negating effects, but it actually works in the opposite way.
The TikTok LIVE Experience: Aesthetics vs. Authenticity
I attest to be someone who actively seeks out opportunities to push my boundaries and embrace uncomfortable situations and in the pursuit of this, I went LIVE on TikTok for the first time.
Prior to going Live, I made sure I looked decent, changed the background to make it clean and did everything I could to not deter people from the stream before they even gave me a shot. Now, this could be seen as a fear of judgement, but you would be incorrect. This was just an aesthetic adjustment to encourage them to watch. I was unphased as to whether they liked my clothes, hair or background, I wanted them tuned into my voice.
Aside from this though, I was very nervous about jumping online to a bunch of faceless people 99% of whom would scroll past my floating head before they even had enough time to process whether what I was saying might have been of any value to them. The number one fear of humans is Public Speaking and although TikTok LIVE is not as daunting as actually getting up in front of people and exposing yourself, it is most definitely a branch from the same tree.
Finding Power in the Uncomfortable
I got a little awkward, I hesitated, stuttered some of my words and got lost in my train of thought but damn did I feel alive!
Now unlike most, I thrive in an environment where I can speak about my passions because I genuinely believe in their transformative power. It worked for me, so I can hedge a bet that it will at least work for one other and that’s all that it’s really about in the end isn’t it? Leaving others in a better state than when you found them (and yourself for that matter).
Ready to Stop Letting Judgement Define Your Path?
The first step to living a life aligned with your is to stop letting other people’s opinions (real or imagined) dictate your actions.
If you’re ready to let go of the noise and find out what your purpose on this earth is then you need the framework to get clear.
One of the courses I’ve created, My Life’s Purpose, is designed to help you uncover what your reason for being on this earth is.
Find this and many more courses at https://coreymicari.com/courses/