Why Your “Motivation” Keeps Failing You
We’ve all been there. It’s 11:00 PM on a Sunday, you’ve just watched a “hustle culture” video, and you’re absolutely buzzing. You promise yourself that tomorrow is the day everything changes. You’re going to start that business, hit the gym, and finally find your purpose.
Then Monday morning hits. The alarm goes off, the kids are screaming, work is stressful, and that “motivation” is nowhere to be found.
Here is the truth: The biggest lie in self-improvement is the idea that wanting to improve shows weakness. In reality, the “perfection” you see on social media is the real lie.
The Fear of Not Being Perfect
I remember when I did my first personal development course seven years ago. It absolutely changed my life. I tried to get those closest to me to experience it, but I was met with massive resistance.
Why? Because people are terrified to show they aren’t perfect. We’ve become so obsessed with this “social media persona” that we’ve lost the ability to be vulnerable. We think if we admit we have things to work on, we’re failing. But talk to anyone for five minutes and peel back the layers, instantly you find that nobody has it all together. This lack of honesty is exactly why we are lacking connection. We’re all comparing our “behind-the-scenes” footage to everyone else’s highlight reel.
The Definition of Insanity
When it comes to changing your life, most people are delusional. They stay with the toxic partner, they live in the hometown that destroyed them, they work the job they hate for a nasty boss and then they expect one tiny change to fix everything.
That is the definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result.
Whether it’s your career or weight loss, you didn’t get into this position in a week. It was a slow process of consistent actions over time. To get out, you have to see the change for the big thing it actually is. You have to stop looking for a “magic pill” and start looking for a Game Plan.
The Power of the Accountability Stage
In my five-stage behaviour change framework, the Accountability Stage is where most people trip up. This is where you sit down and say: “I am at this point in my life because of the actions and choices I have made.”
It’s hard to swallow, but it’s the most empowering thing you’ll ever do.
When we blame other people, the boss, the ex, the economy, we give away all our power to change our reality. We become victims of their actions. But when you take accountability and admit it was a bad choice by you, you get all the power back. If your choices got you here, your choices can get you out.
Sitting in Your Car Feeling Trapped?
If you’re sitting in your car right now, trapped in the rat race and feeling like a cog in a machine, I want you to do one thing: Close your eyes.
Envision what your life would look like if everything was going right. Your health, your family, your bank account, your environment. What does it feel like?
Most people can’t tell you what they actually want, but they can see it when they close their eyes. That vision is your starting destination. It won’t be perfect, and we will course-correct along the way, but you need that internal compass to start moving. This is the core of Success Unlocked, finding the “Why” that makes motivation irrelevant.
Stop Proving, Start Living
Don’t aim for a “new life” by tomorrow morning. Aim for a better system by tonight. It’s time to stop trying to impress people you don’t even like and start building a life you’re actually proud of.
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